Honey, Love, Baby, Sweetheart, Darling and hubby, these are only some of the names we use to call our husband to show our love and affection to them.  The man we swore to care for and protect for the rest of our lives, no matter what the situation is. To make and keep him happy for all the years to go by, together and never letting go.  There are lots of ways to keep him and it involves a lot of aspects so, let’s discuss them further.

The first one, which is the obvious and may be the first thing that made him recognize you, is your appearance.  It is not true that tying the knot should set you free from beautifying yourself.  Marriage should give more room for personal improvement on the woman’s behalf to make her husband happy.  Always find the time to take care of yourself the same way as you take care of your husband.  There may be times that you will need to go with him to parties and meet his friends or colleagues, so you need to show the woman you are who has swept the man off his feet.  It never hurts to look and feel beautiful for someone, especially if that someone is the man whom you love and cherish.

Secondly, you do not have to be a master chef but if you make an effort to cook him dinner, it will surely put a smile on his face.  Effort is the key factor here.  Knowing that his wife exerted so much effort in cooking his favourite dish will surely add flavour to your marriage.  Do not be disheartened if you did not do it properly, there is always a next time to perfect it or ask him or his mother the right way of doing it.  Besides, time is your friend and you signed to spend the rest of your lifetime with him.  You’ll get it better the next time and will even get the hang of it which will lead you to creating new recipes that he will surely love.

Ask him what he likes.  Things are so much easier if he can communicate his wants and needs. Not only will it be much easier for you both, but this will also give way for you to understand each other more.  Men would want to hear you ask these questions and would happily give you answers rather than hearing it from somebody else.  Nobody knows him better than himself and you are getting to know him.  Though this method is not applicable at all times, if you want to surprise him, let’s go to the next step.

His parents know him more than anybody else does.  You can badger his parents with your questions, especially his mother. Take some time to spend with his mother and ask her simple questions such as, how he likes his clothes be arranged, how he wants his egg done, and the like.  Not only are you gaining information about your husband, but also, you are creating a bond with your in-laws, which is beneficial to your marriage.  This will bring your families closer with each other.  After all, marriage is about uniting two families.

Be a part of his circle.  Certainly, the two of you have another world apart from the one you both created for yourselves.  You have your circle of friends, either friends you have gained from work or way back in your school years.  Take time to get to know his friends and hear stories of how he was, which would give you additional idea on how you can better please him.  Hold a small gathering by inviting his friends and spending some time with them.  You will be surprised with the common traits your husband has with his friends and you’d easily learn a lot of new things about him.  A bond with his friends is something that would make him happy; you being friends with his friends and being a friend and wife in one package.

Lastly, learn about what he does.  Nothing would make him more ecstatic than having his wife spark some interest with what he does for a living, and other things.  This will be easier if the two of you came from the same industry but, nevertheless, ask him how his day was, be it good or bad.  There’s nothing more comforting than having someone you can talk all your troubles and accomplishments to. It may sound boring and insignificant but it is important to him, so put an effort and enter his world just for a minute.  Consequently, you’ll be familiar with all his doings and may even be able to give some inputs on how things could be more efficient to his advantage while gaining new knowledge.

Marriage is about two individuals becoming one.  It is about combining both of your worlds to your advantage, so utilize it.  Always remember that it is not all about you, but rather, the two of you together through the coming years.  You have a lifetime to explore for more information that you will need.  Don’t stress yourself trying to be the perfect wife.  Your love is enough to fill in the gaps you may be lacking and surely, he appreciates it because he would not be asking you to marry him if he didn’t.

Forever, that is what you both promised in front of your friends, family and God as witnesses.  A lifetime of companionship with the person you cannot live without.  It may be full of obstacles but that would be easier compared to the pain you’ll have to bear if you part ways with him.  How to keep him happy and make him stay?  A very tricky yet fulfilling question which entails a very simple answer: make him fall for you over and over again.

As a wife, sometimes you become so confident that your husband sees you as the only apple of his eyes. Being married does not mean that you should stop sweeping him off his feet.  It only deviates for you to exert more effort.  That is a common problem between married couples; they start to neglect simple things such as this.  Looks may fade as the years go by but you still need to be at your best for your man.  It is said that men need something to feed their eyes, and in order to continually get his attention, it is necessary that you stay in shape and be beautiful for him.  When couples marry, two individuals become one and whatever you have is also his and to show your love for your husband, you should also give importance to your physical traits.

Respect each other’s privacy. You both may be sharing your life together but you need to retain your own personal spaces.  Sharing lives together, rather than invading each others’ lives, is the true meaning of marriage. We all have our own perspectives as well as our own likes and dislikes and these things may not be the same with our lifetime partner, thus, we can still keep doing them as long as they are not in any way harmful, by having our own space. Often, the lack of privacy results to suffocation and misunderstanding leading to separation due to the fact that you both lose your individuality and the opportunity to grow.  If your husband asks you that he wants to meet his friends, just let him.  Give him time to miss you, and in return, go out with your friends.  Just like work, you also need to take a break and experience singlehood for a while and I can assure you that when you get home you have missed each other already even for a short period of time.

Food is the best way to reach a man’s heart.  Preparing food is a daily routine for you as a wife.  Make it special by kicking it up a notch.  Cook his favourite dish on a weekend (that could be your date night) or ask him what he wants to eat for the whole week.  That way he would realize how special he means to you.  Not only is it worth doing, but it also gives you more quality time and saves you money from dining at a restaurant. The thought of you making him his favourite dish from scratch will make the food more delectable because of the effort you exhausted for it.  Some men prefer women who have the same cooking ability as their mother’s.  It makes it even more significant for them to know that the wife took the initiative to learn how to cook for them.

Actions may speak louder than words but words are still necessary to clearly state the meaning of your actions. It may sound cheesy but you don’t realize the power of words once spoken by the person who means the world to you. Good morning, my love, I miss you, take care, see you later, good night and I love you are some of the words that could drive your man crazy.  A simple phone call or SMS saying how much you love and miss him will surely put a smile on his face.  Express your gratitude by saying, thank you, and planting a kiss on his cheek.  You’d be surprised with the power of words. Let him hear from you that he is always special to you. If you don’t have any terms of endearment, have one.  Endearments may sound absurd or ridiculous at times but they are powerful in every way, between you two.  It constantly reminds and expresses how much you feel for each other when you use these means of endearment.

Words may be a way to clearly state your feelings but as the old saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words,” is truly the best approach to express your love.  When you get married, you both can get too comfortable with each other eventually.  Don’t be scared of expressing your feelings.  Let him know if you get offended by his words or certain actions but don’t overlook his loving gestures as well.  Every gesture you make is significant and that is the reason why you need to do it no matter how simple or little the act is.

Lifetime is a long period for the both of you to get to know each other, it may be full of ups and downs but the true meaning of marriage is how you were able to overcome these obstacles and laugh about it afterwards. Misunderstandings and fights are just tools that would let you and your partner to know each other well and time is your friend to obtain this as you mature and grow old together.

Save Your Marriage From Failure

If your marriage has gone disastrously bad and just refuses to work lately, you might need a little bit of tactic to save it from completely burning out. Every marriage is different in its own way but similar when it comes to this fact: a marriage needs to be maintained and taken care of. If you or your partner, or even both, stop tending to your marriage, it will slowly wither up and complications will arise leading to resentment and bitterness until you can’t stand each other. If you want to save your marriage, you will have to work at helping it recover.

What many couples are not aware of is that even though you have both spent years and years together and probably know each other inside out, there are still some things left that you still may not know about the other. This assumption, when combined with the fact that every human being picks up new habits as he or she ages, leads to bickering between most married couples, eventually. He might have become ungrateful and thankless, but it might be because of some habit you have picked up. Maybe you sound surly and resentful, or maybe he feels you make a big deal out of little things. It might be that the very things you two are doing that annoy you both are just a chain reaction gone out of control. This can be put right, but you need to do a little soul searching first and be willing to admit to your faults, and change if and when required. Be gentle instead of harsh, and ask your spouse to let you know what she wants you to change. Be prepared to not get angry or defensive, and listen to what she says. If you admit to your faults, you will find that your partner is likely to admit to his flaws as well.

Another thing you need to reconsider is your expectations from your spouse. Think about it: are they too unrealistic and impractical? Do you still want him to surprise you with candlelight dinners like he used to, even though you never make an effort to dress up for him anymore? It’s all about give and take and if your spouse is not giving anymore, it just might be because somewhere along the line you stopped giving too. A common mistake most couples make is to expect things but never voice these expectations. No matter how well your partner understands you, sometimes they might be clueless as to what you want. Instead of waiting around and growing bitter, you can gently let your partner in on your expectations. Most couples agree this always has a good outcome. Oftentimes, the other person picked up on his partner’s depression or mood swings and really wanted to make them happy but just did not know how. Actually saying what you need, out loud, will be the breath of fresh air you two need.

It’s okay to be really angry at someone at times, especially if you live with them night and day but the key to any happy relationship is to place yourself in the other person’s shoes. It might seem unfair that your spouse is acting out because of stress at work, but think about it, would you not do the same? Once you start asking yourself “wouldn’t I act the same way?” or “what would I do in his shoes?” you will find that things become a lot simpler and seem a lot fairer, and this will work wonders if you want to save your marriage.

Have you been noticing a rift between your spouse and yourself? Are you two growing aloof as days pass? Many married couples experience this crumbling of marriage. It is impossible to live with someone for years at end and always see eye to eye. If your marriage seems to be falling apart and you are trying to hold on for dear life to save it, there’s no need to panic yet. There’s nearly no damage that cannot be reversed. Here are a few tips on how to save a marriage.

Communication

The source of nearly every marital problem, lack of communication, is what has split up the happiest of couples. You may feel like he just isn’t listening to you, or that she just never has time to sit and talk anymore. Communication does not necessarily mean sitting and having a long conversation every day, it means keeping your spouse involved in every aspect of your life, and voicing everything you feel, from doubts about work to health insecurities. Most times, we back off when we feel that the other person is not interested, and this is what may have happened with you and your spouse if you never share anymore. A way you can improve this is by starting to communicate more and your partner will automatically start doing the same. Leave each other little notes before leaving for work, call with good and bad news when you are not together and just express how you feel. If your spouse is still showing no inclination to communicate, tell them you are genuinely interested in knowing what’s going on in their life. Once the communication gap has been fixed, you will find yourself to be intimate once again.

Don’t Let Yourself Go

If it has been a few years since you have been married, you have probably stopped caring about your physical appearance. While it’s okay to let your spouse see you on your worst hair days and in that ratty old t-shirt, make an effort every now and then again to remind them of the person they fell for in the first place. Dress up well every once in a while even if he is only taking you shopping, wear your best for romantic dinners, and keep your figure and hair maintained. This does not only reignite that old spark of attraction but it will also make you both feel better about yourselves and each other. A presentable and good looking partner is always better than a scruffy spouse who can’t be bothered to make an effort.

Make An Effort

The reason why any relationship reaches its expiration date is because one or even both the parties stop making an effort. It may be the littlest of things. Maybe he never brings you flowers anymore even though it was once a daily ritual. Maybe you never cook his favorite meal or you neglect to greet him with a kiss when he comes home now. While you may have compromised and made your peace with these little things, they have probably diminished the charm of being together and caused you two to drift apart. If you don’t know how to save a marriage and are at a loss for ideas, start with the little romantic gestures and you will notice an immediate difference. Remember, it’s all about the little gestures you make to show your spouse you still value them.

Most marital relationships have a lot of bumps and rough spots. Sometimes these events cause rifts that are seemingly insurmountable. When these incidents occur it takes a concentrated effort to save your marriage.

When confronted with disease in a patient, modern medicine in the developed countries of the world seeks to treat the symptoms of the affliction. Medical researchers, on the other hand, seek to find the causes of the illness, so they can prevent future outbreaks.

With your marriage, you have to treat the symptoms as well as find the causes of your marital problems. You must work on healing the symptoms of your relationship problems and then eliminate the causes so the same problems don’t recur.

If the problems in your marriage are caused by one or both of you, you have to take immediate action to change the causes of the problems. If the causes involve one or both of your actions or an indifferent attitude, this problem should be addressed jointly.

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It is smart to be organized in your approach to solving marital difficulties. Make a list of the problems, the responsible party and what actions have to be taken to change the problem into a positive outcome.

Have your partner make up their own list and then have a quiet conversation and discuss each list. You should jointly decide what each of you is going to do to save your marriage (assuming that your partner is a willing participant in saving what you have together).

In most cases, using an organized approach takes some of the emotions out of the process. After you have agreed on a specific course of action, put the plan into effect immediately. Discuss your progress with your partner on a daily basis.

If you are dealing with an uncooperative partner, one who thinks he or she is the “wronged” party, then you will have to resort to other means to convince your spouse to remain in the marriage.

In this case you can present your partner with your list of what you are going to do to make your marriage better. When it is apparent that you are working to better things, you might suggest that your spouse prepare their own list.

In addition to your list of planned actions, you should also prepare a list of all the reasons to salvage your marriage. Make a balance sheet showing assets on one side and liabilities on the other. Go over it with your partner if they are willing to talk about it.

If your partner is still unwilling to discuss your problems, you might want to seek assistance from an unbiased third party like your clergyman or a close friend or couple who your partner respects and to whom they will listen. Ask this party to go over the balance sheet on your marriage with your mate.

It is much easier to remain in a situation than it is to change. Most people resist changes in their lives. They are much more comfortable with familiar surroundings, activities and relationships.

If you show you are willing to work the kinks out of your marriage, more than likely your partner will be amenable to it as well.

If either one of you has erred greatly, you both have to be reminded that “to err is human, to forgive is divine.” Be divine.

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