Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
Married couples quite often opt for separation when they initially voice a desire to sever the ties between them. A separation is not the same thing as a divorce; it is a trial period that allows the couple to assess their marriage, and make decisions concerning whether or not that marriage is salvageable, while living separately from each other.
They may begin to have some doubts about walking away from their relationship after they have spent some time being without each other. At this point, they will take a second look at things, evaluate the situation, and give the marriage another shot.
If you are separated from your spouse, you can look for a few signs that will let you know that he/she wants to try to save the relationship instead of getting divorced. If your ex begins trying to call or make contact with you, you can take that as a definite sign that he/she wants you back. When you notice that person taking positive action in areas that were causing problems within the marriage, you can take that as a another good sign.
If your ex is starting to reach out to you, it is practically certain that he/she is making an effort to rekindle the flame. You’ll usually see this behavior manifest through surprise lunch dates, telephone calls, and face to face visits.
The reason that these signs are such strong indicators that your ex wants you back, is because people who are still angry, or completely finished with a relationship, won’t be coming around. Actions like these show that he/she wants to communicate, or that they have softened on certain stances that may have kept you apart.
The suggestion of counseling, either together or alone, is another good sign that your ex still wants you to be in his/her life. This action makes a strong statement on several different levels.
For one, it lets you know that your ex is willing to put forth an effort to save the relationship by investing both time and money. The suggestion of counseling not only acknowledges the fact that the marriage had some problems, but that those problems have a chance at resolution. When both sides are willing to admit that there were issues, the marriage is on the path to finding peace.
Seeking professional help also signifies that both parties put enough value on the marriage to be willing to put everything they have got into making the marriage work. Committing to seeing a counselor requires that you spend both your time and financial resources. However, such sacrifices can not only save your marriage, but make it even better than before.