Overcoming A Breakup
4 Tips And More On Overcoming A Breakup
Unless you met the love of your life and stayed with them forever, you must have experienced the ending of a love affair. Here are some tips on overcoming a breakup:
1) Be nice to yourself:
While you may be feeling low and unloved, the end of a relationship doesn’t have to mean you stay on your own forever. Mr or Ms Right could be the next person to walk through the door.
In the meantime, be nice to yourself. Do all the things you wanted to do but your last lover wasn’t interested in. There are probably some shows and films that you would love to see. Grab some friends and head out for the evening.
2) Don’t be seen as being desperate:
Desperation is not an attractive emotion in anyone. If you want your ex to take you back, you need to show them what they are missing. They won’t want someone who is miserable all the time. They want the person they originally fell in love with.
So despite how you are feeling you always need to present the best side of you in public. Dress nicely so you look great and above all plaster a smile on your face. Even if you feel like you are going to die from the pain, you never know when you will meet your ex or a mutual friend, so act happy; even if it is the performance of your life. You can cry into your pillow when you are home alone.
3) Don’t let your life stop:
Yes! I said you could cry into your pillow but I didn’t mean all day every day. Feeling miserable after a break up is natural but if you wallow in self pity, you generally end up feeling worse. There is more to life than any partner so get out there and start enjoying yourself. You may have to pretend for a while but soon you will find that you are actually having fun again.
4) Don’t over analyze what went wrong:
Yes we need to learn from our mistakes but the breakup may not have been your fault. It could simply be that the other person got scared of commitment i.e. cold feet. If they get in contact, agree to meet them for a drink and see how things go. Be polite and listen to what they have to say. If they want you back, don’t be too eager, but agree to see how it goes.
If you were the one who finished things, but now realize you made a mistake, tell your ex. They are not mind readers and they won’t know you want to rekindle your love affair unless you tell them.
Men and women often get things wrong as we see life so differently. Sometimes we have to split from our partner to realize what we had was real love. Often a break and a little communication goes a long way to overcoming a breakup and getting back together.