How To Win Back Lost Love
If you’ve recently suffered a breakup it’s likely one of two things are going through your mind: how to get over your ex or how to win back lost love. Either avenue won’t be easy and very few people find themselves able to move on soon after a break up without wishing that things could work out differently.
Before deciding on anything, you need to look long and hard at your relationship with your ex. Think back to how things used to be and how they will be from now on. Try to be objective when examining these things. In the end, you may realize the break-up was actually a good thing.
However, if you decide instead that you want to win back lost love, the first thin you should do is apologize. Now you may say, I’ve already apologized. Sure you might have even said “I’m sorry” a few times. However, if your ex felt like you were saying “I’m sorry” just to stop the breakup from happening, your apology may not have seemed sincere.
If you have done something that needs to be apologized for make sure that you apologize again. They may think the apology is sincere this time because you have nothing to lose. Since the relationship is already over it won’t seem like you’re only apologizing so you can temporarily patch things up, you ex will see you really mean it. And hopefully, you are sincere.
If its your ex that did something you feel demands an apology, try forgiving them than trying to force a sincere apology. You don’t need to forget the incident, especially if cheating was the reason for the breakup, but you can still forgive. Forgiving is much more difficult than just saying “I forgive you”, you may need to take some time, or even read a book or to, to think about what real forgiveness means. If you really are looking to win back lost love this is an important step. It can also help you to avoid troubles down the road too.
If you do win back lost love, than three, six, nine months into your new relationships old problems may start to arise. If you didn’t truly forgive your ex for whatever caused the previous break up, old heartaches may cause you to have a difficult time overcoming problems once more. If old wounds are opened again harsh words may be exchanged.
However, if you have truly forgiven your ex then the past will be able to be put to rest. While you’re working with yourself to forgive your ex for whatever had happened leading up to your breakup be sure you also forgive them for the breakup itself, it’ll save you many sleepless nights in the future.
If you want to win back lost love you need to remind your ex of how you were when they fell in love with you, not how you’ve been when you were dumped. They were in a relationship with you before because of your best qualities, not because you were hurt, angry or jealous. While hiding the pain may be difficult you should focus on being the best “you” you can be, you could just win back lost love by making your ex remember why they fell for you to begin with.