Ending a Relationship

Does your to-do list look a little like this:

· Walk dog

· Water plants

· Break it off with your significant other

Okay, while we all know that ending a relationship is not exactly on anyone’s top priority list, the fact is that someone eventually has to make the move and end it when things get stale. The truth is, there are tons of relationships that go on beyond their “expiration” date simply because breaking up is a difficult thing to do.

Sometimes break ups can occur in dramatic manner such as clothing being tossed from the window of the second story.

Often, a relationship will just dwindle away until finally someone says “it’s over”.

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How do you end a relationship in a way that both will come out of it unhurt?

You will first need to think of why you want to end the relationship. Most times the reason that your mind jumps to first may not be the true reason. Once you know the reason you want to end it, the next step for you is getting honest. This means that when you talk to your partner you will need to be true to yourself as well as to them.

Schedule a convenient time that you both agree on for the breakup. Generally, it’s better that you do it in person instead of on the phone, but if distance itself is the issue, then you should do it sooner instead of waiting for a time where you’ll get a chance to get together.

When you end the relationship, get your mind in a state of compassion. If you wish to retain your friend ship after your relationship is over, then you’ll need to end the romantic ties with some love and compassion.

Try not to put your partner on the defense. Talk about all the things that you’ve learned in your relationship and talk of the memories that you’ll keep because of your love. Be there during the break up. During that time, your partner is likely to get emotional because of the break up. You need to be there to respond to their needs.

Don’t take anything your partner says or does personally when you’re ending a relationship. Your partner will most likely say or do things that they really don’t mean. Just roll with the punches.

Your partner might also want to meet with you on more than one occasion until they feel the relationship is concluded. Or, they might need you to give them some space. Give your ex the necessary things for them to get through the break up.

But stop them if they try to give you a guilt trip. You are ready to start that new phase in your life which is not going to involve you and a romantic relationship with your ex. It is best to retain some sort of positive relationship with them, but if the relationship ended for just reasons, then it really is best for the both of you.

Should you ever consider getting back together? When a relationship ends does it always mean “your done, put the puzzle back in its box”?

This is something that you’ll have to decide on your own. But, most all relationships can be rekindled under the right conditions. If you are willing to put in the time and the effort, then can get through that time and in the end you will be a stronger couple than before.

However, if you are certain that what you want is to walk away, then you better break off the relationship in a clean way and move it along.

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