Can This Marriage Be Saved?
Viewing the bond of marriage as something to be entered into lightly, or bailed out of easily, is not wise. Maintaining the health of a marriage requires a huge commitment and much effort. If you are currently experience trouble in your marriage, and are questioning: can this marriage be saved?, we would like to assist you with some advice.
You will initially have to wade through the unimportant stuff, and answer a few difficult questions. The first of which is: do you truly desire for your marriage to be saved?
You would be surprised at the number of individuals who remain in unhealthy relationships because they have decided that they should. If this is your underlying feeling, then, subconsciously, you are undermining your relationship. If your true feeling is that you do not want to continue the relationship, then this connection cannot be healthy.
Once you have carefully thought through your emotions, and decided that you marriage is worth saving, you can then move on to finding out what the problem is, and what your responsibility is in what caused the problem. Facing our own shortcomings is always more challenging than pointing out our spouses flaws, so taking responsibility for our role in the trouble of the relationship can be complicated.
Upon examination, you will most likely find that you each made mistakes that led to the relationship getting into trouble. Both partners had a part to play, whether the split of responsibility is 50/50 or 90/10. Your mistake may have been allowing your spouse to take advantage of you, while you avoided standing up for yourself. Then, one day, you have reached your limit. It is difficult for your spouse to understand your sudden exasperation, as you have never mentioned anything before, and their behavior is the same as it has always been.
So, now that you have identified what you have done to exaggerate the problem, are you truthfully willing to make the necessary changes to correct it? Authentic, long-lasting changes? If you are prepared to do the work, then your next step is to ask your spouse the same tough questions.
If you find that you are both prepared to take the necessary steps, then your marriage does stand a chance. If, however, your partner is unwilling to accept any responsibility, and instead puts the entire fault of your marital problems on you, then your marriage has actually already ended.
I hope that you find this information helpful. Being confined in an unhealthy marriage is a terrible feeling, but letting a marriage that could be saved, end without putting forth the effort to right the wrongs, will certainly end in devastation. So, if you find yourself wondering, “can this marriage be saved?”, take this opportunity to sit down with your partner for a nice long conversation.